Before any rumours about the status of my relationship go flying around, I would like to start this post off by stating that this question is purely out of curiosity and no, I am not getting married (anytime soon).
I think about weddings a lot, both my own and my friends and family (I have been a bridesmaid three times and am currently an ecstatic maid of honour for my best friend’s wedding next Spring). I pretty much have my wedding planned out and pages in my diary strictly for jotting down ideas for when my times comes.
The thing I am certain I will stress out over the most is the guest list.Though as I get older this happens less and less, in the past I would have classified myself as a people pleaser and spent way too much of my time worrying about what other people think. I am worried that when it comes time to invite people to my imaginary wedding I won’t be able to draw the line on people who don’t need to be there.
Over the years of blogging and tweeting I have made many friends over the internet (as I am sure many of you have as well). These are people I talk to almost every day and develop wonderful, supportive friendships with. People like this girl and this girl. People who I tell some of my deepest secrets to and people who are there for me when I am upset or having troubles.
My question is: Do you invite these friends to your wedding? Do you invite your bloggy friends to your wedding? What if you have an anonymous blog – do you invite them and make up a story of how you met? Do you invite someone to your wedding who you have only met in person once but talk to almost every day? Or do you have to put this huge part of your life aside when it comes to your wedding day?
I for one know that when it comes time to mail my invitations you’d better believe that Reggy and Michelle will find one in their mailboxes. And I would be delighted if they chose to attend.
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Your stressing too much about this. Just take it easy when the time comes for you to get married you’ll do great! I bet you 100% you will tie the knot one day, your beautiful.
I stressed about getting car and thought that day would come one day ever since I was like 13. Got my car when I was 18 and I rushed it. I bought the car on the spot with looking at any others and I ended up getting a decent car but I didn’t know it was an ontario car and that it was a little rusty. BADLUCK. Anyways, about the invitation thing I would invite the people that I have a good relationship with and whom deserve to be there and a part of your lives. No matter where I met them. Internet, blog, space whatever!
afif out, peace.
you invite or not invite anyone you choose, it’s your big day, you dont have to please anyone but yourself ( and well Tim since it’ll be his day too.. haha ) When you get there dont let anyone tell you otherwise! thats what I loved about my wedding, it was done the way I wanted to do it, no one understood why i did what i did for mine ( we had it @ 11 in the morning on a sat, the reception ’til 4, and then met everyone up later at a bar and partied.. I did it that way so Thomas could enjoy the whole thing with us ( he was only 14mths at the time ), as could our family w/o someone having to miss it to watch him)
k, now im just babbling.. haha..
bottom line… do what you want!!!! who cares about anyone else!
Depends on the size of the wedding. I feel closer to some of my online friends than people I see everyday. If you can’t invite them I would just webcast it. Hopefully the girl is happy with that.
Reggy came to my bachelorette! If I had to write the guest list today, she would be on it for sure.
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I would definitely invite the bloggy and internet friends that you talk to everyday. They’re a huge part of your life and your support system and I’m sure that they would love to share your special day with you!
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im RSVPing right now for whenever said wedding is! ATTENDING!!!
seriously though Leah, you are one of the most amazing, beautiful and sincere people i have ever met and i am so lucky to call you a friend. it doesn’t matter how we met, people are brought into your life all different ways for a reason.
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I agree with most of the comments that you should invite the people who you want to be there, Leah. No matter how you met or became friends, they are still your friends. It *might* be a good idea to meet them in person first, just so you know exactly who you’re inviting
But you know who your friends are and they SHOULD be there!
You should definitely invite the people you want to have at your wedding. You can’t include everyone and there will always be someone offended that you didn’t include them. We had 400+ people at our wedding and still got grief from people we didn’t invite!
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I stumbled across this blog just recently and quickly became addicted. When I saw this entry, I had to comment! I am in the process of planning my wedding, which will take place on June 12 of this year. Everything is going so smoothly, but I am SOO stressed out about the guest list. My fiancee and I both have big families and he has an enormous amount of great friends. We have 400 people on a list that we are trying to whittle down to 275. I know! Clearly the line has to be drawn somewhere and we are both struggling with it. Considering that we aren’t even going to be able to invite everyone in our families and all of our close friends….do you (or anyone else) have any suggestions for those friends (acquaintances) who come up to us and either ask if they’re going to be invited or simply assume it? How do you tell people that they’re not a good enough friend to be invited to your wedding, without actually telling them
? Am I the only one who thinks it’s tacky to ask if you’re going to be invited to someone’s wedding??
Just going to say that I thought it would be the hardest part about our wedding and we did the list in less than an hour. We only wanted 120 or less because of the location and because Jono has a family of 3. My family is huge so I don’t want to overpower the Earle group.
I don’t blog Le so you know what my answer is to that but it is still hard with Scottish people, friends from school (who are all 19 right now), and the fact that the wedding is so far away.
My rules were that if they haven’t met Jono than they weren’t invited because it is a party to celebrate us (not me). I also didn’t invite anyone who I didn’t call to tell we were engaged. I just feel like this way we are asking only close people who have a relationship with Jono and I as a couple. Think of all the parties we have and people say they are going to come and then don’t. I don’t want to finally see them at my wedding. It sounds mean but really I just want to feel comfortable surrounded by people I love and who love ‘us’.
Also I didn’t invite plus ones. I mean people with partners are obviously invited to bring them but no random people were invited.
I feel good about the list. Once you do it you will feel like it was easier then you thought!
PS I think I might start a blog to improve my web writing skills for potential jobs?
I would definitely invite blog friends that you are friends with. I feel a lot closer to some of the friends I’ve me through my blog than I do people I see every day. Do what you feel is comfortable and you don’t have to explain your relationships to anyone if you don’t feel like it, other than saying that they are simply a friend.
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This made and Eri’s comment made me cry happy tears this morning. Leah you better believe I would be there!! I am so glad to have met you girls and I’m honoured you’d even think of inviting me
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I think sometimes you find friends in ways you’d never expect. I’d like to think if I ever got married that some of my friends from the blogosphere would be on the guest list.
Found this blog through the 20SB awards today! I’ve actually got a bloggy friend who is getting married clear on the other side of the NATION, and I am seriously considering going (because, yes, she is inviting me). But there are definitely all kinds of questions arising like, “How much time will you really get to spend together?” and, “What if you really don’t end up ‘clicking’ like you do via email/blog/chat?” and, “How do you justify spending hundreds of dollars to fly to North Dakota for the wedding of someone you’ve never met when you didn’t even CONSIDER going to your college friend’s wedding in an adjacent state?”
Basically, I think I suck at real-life friendships. But that’s beside the point. I say, if you feel close to them, invite ‘em.