Kent and I have been married for nearly eight months now and together for, apparently, nearly four years. But I refuse to believe that last one for one second. Insane. It does not feel like that long, but that could be because a lot of that time (way too much, really) was spent living far apart.
I remember soon before we were married, waking up in the middle of the night more than once in fear that he would one day stop being completely, ridiculously obsessed with me the way he had always been. I need to spend my life with someone whose eyes light up every time he sees me, who has never once made me believe that he doesn’t want to spend every single second with me. I think everyone deserves this, really. And I hope he would say the same thing about me.
It’s not that he’d ever given me the idea that anything would change. It’s just that, there are some scary statistics out there for soon to be married girls who think too much about these things (and who doesn’t?) I confided my silly fears to one of my best friends, Amanda, who told me I was crazy and that Kent fits her two requirements for her future husband – that he has to be a gentleman and that he has to capital-letter ADORE you.
Eight months later and I would say he capital letter adores me one hundred times more than when we were first married, and that sometimes I still ask him, “WHEN are you going to stop being so obsessed with me?” It’s not that I don’t think I’m loveable, more that I’m a girl and we tend to create problems where there are none. Granted, he’s not perfect (but I think I’ve perfected my corner-of-my-eye-roll when he asks me to get off of the couch and get him something that he is perfectly capable of getting himself, which happens way too often for it to be okay) but I do feel lucky every day. I promise that I do appreciate what I have. Probably too much. This morning, for instance, he woke me up by saying, “Thanks for everything you do for me, and all the cooking and cleaning you’ve been doing lately.” SEE WHAT I MEAN? There is no way that kind of thing lasts for fifty years. Feel free to prove me wrong.
I don’t know why I think like this, not all the time, but once in a while. We’re both surrounded by couples who have been married since the dawn of time. I guess as a kid you think that being “in love” is something for young people, and that as you grow older it turns into more of a partnership. Then as you get closer and closer to “older” you realize this way of thinking needs to change, pronto.
Or maybe I should just believe it lasts forever, and then it will (apparently these emails from the Universe have been rubbing off on me.)
And this, my friends, is where you tell me that you’ve been married or dating the same person for one, two, fifteen, twenty nine, forty, or eight hundred years, and that he/she is five hundred and fifty three times more ridiculously obsessed with you than they were on day one.
Please and thank you. 
Wow – he seems amazing!!
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Hey Mic!
Jono used to say all the time to me “You’re a sweet girl”…and we both know that back then it wasn’t true! But I have become the woman he saw in me and in doing so have made his adoration stronger. Every time I come back from work or school he is doing something like folding my laundry…AND he gets up from that to give me a hug because he’s so happy I am home!
I think people who settle for anything less are IDIOTS!
Ps I can’t wait to be married but feel as though we met just yesterday too. It is hard to believe it was actually three years ago!
hah… you were a handful but I think he likes that quality! When you were singing at kareoke, Jono was looking up at you all starry eyed and he said out loud to no one in particular: “She is SO amazing.” That was so sweet. He’s a good guy… you should go fold his laundry, or something.
This post made me happy
Its always nice to hear about young couples who are so in love, especially in today’s society where divorce seems like such an easy option now a days.
I wish you all the best in the next 50, 75, 90 years together! haha
*A* and I have been dating since we met in first year of University- so four years now together. And I agree that it just keeps getting better everyday
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We’ve been together almost 7yrs (married for 8 months as well!) and love and appreciate each other more everyday.
We do everything we can (within reason) of ensuring to keep the spark of alive between work, family and life.
Both sets of parents are divorced (his both remarried) so we have a “realistic” perspective on love and married. We know what mistakes not to make essentially! I too hope and will always work towards this and he and I speak often about how we can improve and maintain our marriage. As individuals and as a couple.
I plan to pinch his butt until I am good into my 80′s.
Matt and I have been together 9 years this month, married for 3 years and I was actually just thinking the other day how I don’t remember a lot of our ‘firsts’ because when I was 17 I just didn’t think about that stuff. (I do remember he first asked me out over ICQ tho!) so even though I don’t remember when he first said ‘I love you’ we share a crazy amount of memories since we grew up together.
happy 8 months mic! so happy you brought mr. kent into our lives!
I always wish I could remember certain things more clearly. I guess the problem is when you first start dating someone no matter how old you are you don’t know for sure that you are going to get married and that the things that are happening are actually important to remember! You are just too busy living in the moment. Which is a good thing, I think.
You know my feelings about this post. I love all of the adorable comments, and agree with Laura that I am so happy you brought Kent into my life as my brother (even if I do scare him sometimes)! He definitely does adore you, as he should.
Thanks for your advice … I am trying to listen, but sometimes life is just hard, ya know.
No probs dude! It wasn’t really advice just my interpretations… hope I’m right. <3
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My bf and I have been together for 5 years. We were best friends when we started dating and we’re best friends now. I think everything just gets better with time.
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I love when people say that! I tell Kent he’s mine but I don’t think he believes me! Maybe because I’ve had the same girl best friend since I was 6. He doesn’t think he can compete with that!
Isn’t it crazy that you’ve been with Kent almost 4 years?! It’s the same for Matt and I (remember when I visited you in Algonquin on my way to Matt’s cottage for the first time??)! I was never the girl who was in long term relationships so I freak when I think we’ve been together for nearly 4 years…and married(!?!?!) for nearly 3 of those years! We are definitely more madly in love and I definitely had my freak out moments about what the heck I was doing marrying the first boy I fell head over heels for. But whatevs, it’s awesome and I’m going to live it up!
haha, aww. You guys are the cutest.
I feel sometimes that preaching about how amazing your relationship is, falls on deaf ears, and that nobody truly wants to hear about it. But after reading this I realize, I don’t do it NEARLY enough. Girls fall into the trap with friends and family that they only talk about their significant other when they are fighting, and you hear all the bad, and none of the good, LETS PROCLAIM THE GOOD!!
I feel the same way about Ryan. No matter what I am wearing, no makeup, ridiculous top head bun or made up like a princess, and he still is always flabergasted by my beauty (his words, not mine! lol). He also Vacuums the house nearly everyday, doesn’t get too mad when i forget to scoop the cat litter, which is always
, and tells me daily how much he loves me. I feel inadequate a lot of the time, like I don’t deserve it, but I am working hard on being a good wife, telling him how much he means to me almost as often, and at least I am thinking about scooping the cat litter.
I loved this comment a whole lot. I love how he says flabbergasted and umm vacuuming every day? Let’s trade. I hate cat litter too… contemplating getting pregnant just so I don’t have to scoop it anymore. Except then when I get home hours before him (which is every day) I won’t be able to do it. So apparently I am never getting pregnant because I couldn’t handle not being able to scoop it myself.
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I read this post a few days ago and I can’t stop thinking about it. Amazing. I’ll be telling all my unmarried friends that they deserve to be adored. Because they do! We all do!
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My hubby & I have been married 9 months- together for 7 years.
He adores me, despite all my craziness and weirdness. It’s nice to have a #1 fan in your back pocket
Great post! Very informative – definitely subscribing to your blog. Many thanks
It is wonderful to be adore ~ and to adore back, waay to often we take our partners for granted. Michaela your uncle Jeremy and I have been married almost 13 years, together 16. What I know for sure is that I see too many women my age pouring their time and energy into girlfriends, kids, work, volunteer work ~ almost everything but their partner, shouldn’t be surprising when you loose each other. My marriage isn’t perfect either and I’ve made mistakes in past relationships…keep the home fires burning (I was going to say ‘he’s got my back’ but I think that line is unusable forever…oh yeah, never pick a guy who was married to a porn star)…glad I took a few minutes to read this …miss & love you all, Lisa